Sex and Stress

Your're stressed out and ready to blow a fuse. One more thing to put a kink in your day and you might just punch a small child. Hell, you barely have any fingernails left because you have biting on them for hours. You've tried the stress ball...and the outcome...what the hell is a squishy ball filled with rice and an angry face going to do get rid of my stress?

Then you try meditation, but you can't stop thinking of all the stuff that is stressing you out. Maybe you hate running, so running won't relieve and maybe even a bike ride won't make you feel calmer.

Have yout tried sex?

Sex is a natural way to relieve stress. When you have sex, especially the king where you are going deep inside someone, nerves are hit in the vaginal wall and the hormone oxytocin is released which helps calmness descend. Dr. Brody, a psychologist at the University of Paisely, did several tests to determine that sex does indeed calm people down. Even, science supports that sex is good for becoming calm.

But, I hope that if you have had sex then you already know that sex is quite calming. Post-coitus, or after orgasm, most people feel quite calm and relaxed. And why the hell not? Sex is damn good feeling and it makes you happy. How can you stay stressed when you just orgasmed?!!!! We don't need science to tell us this. Its nice to know that some scientists are interested in the uses of sex for other than pleasure, but good grief! There really needed to be a study that proves this?

Sadly, I have not been feeling stressed out to go and prove this idea even more, but please dear readers, if you are stressed out right now, go and get laid!

I would like to thank BBC News for information on Dr. Brody .

The Regrettable History of Vibrators

A vibrator can be the single woman's best friend or for any woman for that matter. Bright colors, nice ridges, the curved point that can actually hit the nice spot, but the vibrator has a regrettable history. No, vibrators were not invented by some woman hitting up against something that vibrated and gyrated.

In the mid 19th century, male doctors came up with a condition that was afflicting many women, this was "hysteria." "Hysteria" usually was visible with the woman being upset often, fits of moodiness and depression. "Hysteria" most likely developed in women due to the fact that they had few roles to play in society except be the pure wife and mother. Women weren't even given the right to be sexual creatures at this time.

So, here comes the vibrator invented by Kellina Wilkinson. Pretty much, a woman would go to her physician and the good doctor would get her off with the vibrator. The doctor didn't see this as sexual and the women who had it done to them didn't see it as sexual.(It was barely believed that a woman could orgasm, and an orgasm via the clitoris was not believed in either).

Imagine, this: Upset, depressed woman getting off by her physician to cure her ailment. Wow.

It wasn't until 1902 that the vibrator was put out on the market for retail. And thank god.


As you can see from the images on this post, vibrators have come along way. How awkward would it be to be having an orgasm while holding onto a hose that seems to be connected to a vacuum?!! Personally, I prefer using my vibrator in ways that this machine would not let me...shower, bed...with someone...this thing, well, you could probably use it as a vacuum too.

There are so many different types of vibrators out there, that is hard to choose. Hell, you can even get anal vibrators now, which probably would have the Victorians in a dither.

Here are some types of vibrators: Clitoral, dildo, g-spot, jack rabbit, anal, fukuoku, dual zone, triple zone, silver bullet and even ones that you can hook up to your ipod!

Need to give thanks to slate.com where I got my images from and Tulip (lovely sex store in Chicago) for selling so many vibrators.

The Nature of Lies

I recently came across an interesting article about a professor at the Art Institute of Chicago who is fascinated by lies. This led me to thinking about lying in general. When it comes to sex, lies happen all to often. Women lie about having orgasms and being sexually stimulated, men lie about why they had sex with someone and some lie about what they are interested in doing in bed. Hell, most likely at some point in everyone's sex lives they have lied. Why is this? Why do people feel the need to lie to the people they have sex with?

Looking back at the history of how sex has been treated in society it is easy to see why lying still happens. In the 18th century women barely had a voice in their sex lives, it wasn't something you did. If sex came out in public, people lied about actually having it. Time moved forward and sex got to be a little better, but still lying happened because society still treated sex as a taboo subject.

Today, we like to think that we are all so modern in how we treat sex, but it is still a subject that many of us are raised to feel awkward about. It is treated as taboo even as sex stores are in put in busy neighborhoods and KY ads show couples clothed and kissing. It is always around and yet people still feel shame or awkwardness when it comes to what they want in bed.

There needs to be change still. Advances in how sex is treated are not complete and not perfect. People should be comfortable telling their partners that they didn't orgasm or that they would like to be spanked every once in awhile without being judged. I think we all need to start feeling safe and confident with our partners about sex.

No lies, No shame and No fear.

Here is a list of some great people who are good at making you feel comfortable with sex:

Dan Savage of "Savage Love," who answers questions about sex

Annie Sprinkle, sex activist and feminist artist

Kate Bornstein, awesome books on sexuality and gender.

I love Female Orgasm, good book and sex education program

Handmade Bike Show

Off to the Handmade Bike Show!

Cyclist+Sex=A Bangin' Good Time

I recently read an article that referenced an article Bicycle Magazine had recently that discussed how cyclists make better lovers. I started wondering if this could be possible? I'm not talking the stuff we already know...cyclists are pretty damn hot in their hot winter gear and a nice frame just sends chills up my body. Don't even get me started on a hot chick on a hot bike...the sex appeal is huge!!!

But medically speaking, I have no idea if cyclists are great in bed. All the reasons make sense. Here are some that I have found on why cyclists are good at sex (or should be at least...)

1. We have bangin' cardiovascular health, which means awesome blood flow. Good Cardiovascular systems=good blood flow=blood can get to the penis and the clit pretty damn well.

2. Consistent biking=good health=more chance of having a nice orgasm

3. Stamina, we bike and we bike because we have stamina and drive, this also happens when we have sex.

4. Muscles are strong from cycling and having strength can really add to sex being good.

(Information from http://www.mcsweeneys.net/)

All this makes sense. We're fit, happy, strong and have drive. I can see how sex can be pretty awesome if you are a cyclist or having sex with a cyclist.

So to all you cyclists out there who not confident when it comes to sex, DON'T BE!!! Everything is in your favor of you being a good lover. If anyone has actually read this, my last words are: GO HAVE SEX!!! ITS GOOD FOR YOU!!!

Night All.

I'm Very Excited: The Kinky Llama of Chicago

So you're with that guy or girl, whoever you really want to get it on with. You are at that point when you know for sure, 100% positive that you are about to have sex. If you are a fairly decent person who has good sexual hygiene, this means you will most likely want a condom(s), dental dam(s), maybe some lube, or other nice things used to keep sex safe. You jump off your bed dig in your pants pockets, your bag, a drawer...and you find nothing and this means maybe what you want to have happen now won't because you forgot to grab dental dams the last time you were at a sex shop or you were a flake and didn't pick up condoms on the way home. And of course it is like 2:20 in the morning, and pouring rain out; who the hell is open? Crap situation. Hell, I've been in situations like this. All ready to go and then BAM...nothing happens because one little thing isn't around.

Well, The Kinky Llama of Chicago has come to save those situations where you really want to have sex, but just don't have the right things. Anthony Mikrut founded the Kinky Llama, which is sex toy bike messenger service that is 24/7. You check out his website, give him a call and place your order. In about an hour (according to the site) you will be able to start your fun after Mikrut comes to your place on his bike. Bangin'. I'm not just talking about condom needed unexpectedly , Mikrut has a decent stock of sex toys. Want to add some spur of the moment kink, but don't have handcuffs? Mikrut does and he has a bike to get them to you.

What an awesome idea. He is a genius and so I must give totes to Mikrut for coming up with an awesome solution for when sex is just around the corner.

The Kinky Llama's website has all the information a person needs to start using Mikrut's services.

On a less sexual note, I got an unpleasant call from the bank informing me that there might be some fraud going on with my debit card. They listed off some purchases that I DEFINATELY did not make! One song from itunes, a place that was prounounced like "venison," tacky costume jewerlry trying to look real...and fucking gourmet coffee online. Apparently it was a yuppie who was trying to use MY money.

Addition to the Sex Eggs Post

I thought I would provide people with where they can find the sex eggs:

ToyDemon only sells Tenga products

Tenga has a store online that is accessible if you don't speak Japanese

and if you want to be really amused check out the blog that Tenga has!